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Suppression of children is still the norm

© 27 September 2017 Marthijn Uittenbogaard

We used to suppress children and call it educating them. Kids were beaten a lot by their parents. But not only by their parents. At school too. In the UK, caning of children was legal until 1999! At boarding schools, we did - as a society - everything to beat out the individuality of a child. Alex Renton who as a child was placed in the boarding school Ashdown House, writes in 2014 [1]: "Besides, the sexual abuses were, in my version of the story, just detail: the real narrative was of five years of deliberate crushing of our individuality, the suppression of emotional freedom. Sexual bullying seemed just a part of the violence and cruelty that was the basic currency of the school and hundreds like it; the tools with which it squashed our little forms into the mould. Out of it would come upper-class Englishmen and women - ready to go and run an Empire or, at least, take charge of lesser mortals with normal feelings."

In those days the suppression of children was the norm. When sexual abuse took place it usually was covered up. It was no problem because, when you beat a child or when you force a child into sex then you still have the power over the child. The real problem would be in those days: a child with a personality of its own. A child that is listened to. A child with rights. When a grown up would be nice to a child and wanted to stop the abuses then there was no place for such a person. Friendships and sexual contacts on a level that children themselves wanted was not the norm.

It this different today? Not really. Today we 'protect' children from sexual abuse. In reality we deny them their freedom to choose who to befriended with, who to be intimate with, who to have sex with. It's just the same control as we used to have with the same purpose: children must fit into the mould. The same people are in power: people who like to abuse their power. People who lie all the time. People who fit perfectly in a dishonest society.

I said it many times before, but the pedophile witch hunt has nothing to do with sexuality itself. It's all about controlling people's lives. There is no harm from sexual contact if people, including children, are free to choose. The harm comes from the sexual sick people who then and now abuse children, and they abuse grown ups too. They usually don't love children, they only love their suppressing norms. Who are these sick people? They are the people in power: in politics, in the mass media and in the so called child protection service. Let's free the children. Begin with being skeptical to the people in charge. Free yourself in your mind is the first step.

Would I, and people like me, at that time be in charge in the boarding school, where Alex Renton used to be as a kid, then his childhood would be so much better. Ten times better, no one hundred times better. We have the solution. People who are against pedosexual contacts are the problem: they are - direct or indirect - today's abusers. They are, in a way, the same as the people that forcefully abused children, sexual and non-sexual, back in the old days. They keep the abuse system in place, instead of liberating people. The best liberation starts with our young people: the children.

[1] Article 'Abuse in Britain's boarding schools: why I decided to confront my demons' by Alex Renton,; The Guardian; 4 May 2014

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"Wees eerlijk en laat zien wie je bent."
"Kinderen moeten veel meer zeggenschap krijgen."
"Alle zedenwetten moeten weg."
"Pedohaat heeft niets met seks te maken."
"We gaan verkeerd met seksualiteit om."
"Hoe zinniger wat je zegt, hoe bozer men wordt."
"Zonder pedofilie zou de wereld veel armer zijn."