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Sex and porn addiction

© 19 November 2018 Marthijn Uittenbogaard

Sex and/or pornography addiction is becoming more and more an official disease in therapeutically environments around the world. Many people suffer from this addiction, as we are told. Bram Bakker, a Dutch psychiatrist, writes about this kind of addiction in his article on [1]. He thinks it's a good thing that his profession addresses this topic. Unfortunately he does not write about the possible negative consequences, when psychiatrists and others are willing to help these kind of addicted persons.

Psychiatrists helped gay people… Gay people were told they had a disease. An official one. Psychiatrists were against masturbation, against female sexuality and you name it. So it can be dangerous if they label someone as a sex or porn addict. You need to help people. Not to fit all clients/patients in a socially accepted mall. Some may feel they don't have an addiction at all. Are these people always wrong? Who decides when you have an addiction or not? And some people are addicted to music, or anything else. But some addictions are no problem at all for the addicted persons. Maybe, some people are not officially addicted to porn or sex. But does that mean they never need help concerning these issues? The problem with officially calling some behaviors, or regular returning thoughts, a disease, together with made up rules, checklists or whatever, is dangerous. Helping can become: creating or increasing the problem. It is also profitable for the psychiatrists and for the pharmaceutical industry. These profits are real, but they are a negative factor in the analysis if someone has an addiction or not.

What I like to see first, is that the problem with our psychiatrists, our psychologists and other so called therapists, is being placed on top of our agenda's. Let's get Bram Bakker and his colleagues on the couch. Let them speak, we will listen and we will analyze and label.

'How is your sex life, Bram? You can tell me anything. Trust me. I'm here to help you.'

Case 1.
Patient - a man 45 years of age - has pedophile feelings concerning little girls. Patient comes here voluntarily and does not use or want to use any medicines for his mental disease. Patient masturbates three times a week. That is too much. After some sessions, patient tells he only masturbates one time a week. The therapy works.

If I would masturbate only one time a week, I do so once a day, I would be horny as hell and I would be thinking about sex every minute, no even every second. But the above case is what therapists in our country do. The so called patient lied by the way. He still masturbates as often as he did before. Nothing wrong with that.

[1] Seksverslaving - by Bram Bakker - - - 18 November 2018

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"Wees eerlijk en laat zien wie je bent."
"Kinderen moeten veel meer zeggenschap krijgen."
"Alle zedenwetten moeten weg."
"Pedohaat heeft niets met seks te maken."
"We gaan verkeerd met seksualiteit om."
"Hoe zinniger wat je zegt, hoe bozer men wordt."
"Zonder pedofilie zou de wereld veel armer zijn."